Most people are totally unaware of the fact that they have a community of inner, self-sabotaging voices constantly speaking to them. These voices will say things that, at first, sound like wise advice meant to protect you from getting hurt, being rejected, or experiencing disappointment.
These voices will say things like:
- “You’re going to look like a fool.”
- “Don’t try that. It’ll never work.”
- “People aren’t going to like that.
- “You’re not experienced enough to make that work.”
- “You'll never pull that off.”
- “You’ll embarrass yourself if you try that.”
- “It’s too much effort to do that. And it won’t work, anyway.”
The question is: Have you ever heard these inner voices saying these things to you? The answer for all of us is, yes!
We all have an inner, self-sabotaging voice (some voices louder than others) that we must recognise, acknowledge and deal with otherwise this voice will do everything in its power to hold you back and prevent you from moving forward towards your deepest hopes and dreams. You can be sure that the bigger your vision is, the louder this voice will be, telling you over and over that changing anything in your current life is too risky, too dangerous, too stupid, too hopeless, too unattainable, or completely ill-advised. It will do its utmost to convince you that if you do try changing some aspect of your personal or professional life, you will definitely end up getting hurt or meeting with failure. Preserving the status quo is what these inner voices wants, and they will stop at nothing to achieve this goal. But you can choose what voice you decide to listen to.
This month in Month 4 of the Alignment Module of the LEAD Programme, participants learn to recognise their inner, self-sabotaging voice speaking in them, and we explore techniques to challenge them. These inner voices never completely leave us, but we can learn the skills to neutralise them so we can live our vision, in alignment with our values.